Tall Poppy Diaries

Observations and musings on life as a happy high-achiever (or what the Aussie's call a "Tall Poppy" ). "Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or how much power you have." --Oprah Winfrey

Friday, December 31, 2004

 

  Tall Poppy Diaries: The Basics


Yesterday, I came across two people on my referral list who had done a search for my very first post. I was nervous when I saw that. Why? Because I hadn't read it since I wrote it and I couldn't remember what I had said. When I first started writing Tall Poppy Diaries, I had no idea what a blog was. I heard them mentioned during TV coverage of the DNC, and thought I should try it. So, fearing that my first post was something I would regret having left in the public domain, I closed my eyes and clicked the link to see JUST how bad it was. It began:

"A few years ago, a group of girlfriends and I were discussing why many women feel obligated to cut down other women who are perfectly nice but who have distinguished themselves in such a way that they "stand out from the crowd". ....

My friend, Laura, spoke up and said: "My friend Karen lived in Australia for a while. She told me that in Australia they call high-achievers 'Tall Poppies'.When you have a poppy field, it's most desirable for all of the poppies to be the same height. The entire field of poppies looks better when they appearto be all the same. So if one poppy grows taller than the other poppies around it, they just chop it down so that it doesn't make the rest of the poppies don't look bad. It really is the same way with people. When someone achieves too much and 'grows too tall', it seems like their peers feel obligated to try to knock that person down...."

The post continued:

"....Who REALLY empathizes with a girl or woman who is successful. AND happy. AND who always seems to get what she wants (even though that isn't the case)? OTHER TALL POPPIES DO...

If you usually find yourself celebrating your success alone in front of your TV with Carrie Bradshaw and a quart of Ben and Jerry's...

1) Don't despair! Realize that you are in fine company. Many of the people you admire most are right there in the trenches with you.

2) Surround yourself with people who can be happy for your successes and not get in a snoot when you try to share your happy news with them.

Oh! So, you're coming up short in the 'I'm so happy for you, girlfriend!' department?

3) You can always tell ME about it! I will always be happy to hear you toot your horn or whine for a few lines--just as long as you are keepin' your bloom on straight (naughtiness and meanness are NOT TP Characteristics!)...."

...So come on in, grab a breath of fresh air, and feel free to join in the discussion. I'll share observations of my own about life in the Field, a few links that I think Tall Poppies would find interesting, and I hope that you will feel free to do the same. "

As we celebrate the New Year, I thought it would be fun to good to get back to the basics. Back to talking about the things that we ALL need to do in order to be a happy Tall Poppy (and, yes, call me Pollyanna...I DO think that you can be successful, happy AND nice!)


We do cover all of those things. But I thought it might be good to get down to the basics of what it means to be a Tall Poppy. Several of you have expressed concerns that you were worried about negative attention you might get as a result of BoB nominations. Well, rightly so. Several of my blogging buddies whom have found success of late would tell you that SUCCESS IS NO BED OF ROSES! But there are ways to enjoy it AND survive it.

I also believe that there are 10 Characteristics that women MUST have in order to be a true Tall Poppy. And, regardless of what some might think, being a Tall Poppy can be WAY fun! Over the next 10 days, I will reveal each characteristic and tell you what I think we can do in the year 2005 to grow even stronger and taller. I promise...You won't want to miss it!

My first post will be on the MOST IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC one
MUST have in order to be successful AND happy: CONFIDENCE. Without it, you're NOT going to be able to handle the Weeds and naysayers who will come after you every time you get "noticed". So tune in tomorrow.... You'll be glad you did!


 

  2004 Lexicon Roundup

My DSL has been knocked out TWICE today, so I am still in the process of getting my Tall Poppy Forecast--2005 edition ready to go. However, in the meantime, wanted to share another edition of Lexicon from Daily Candy. This is a wrap-up of some of the favorites of the Daily Candy Editors from the year 2004. Enjoy! And will be back a bit later with my 2005 Forecast. Cheers!

From the Editors at Daily Candy: A special edition dedicated to carat danglers, doggerels, and all the special people in our lives.

beighborhood
n. Area populated by good-looking people. ("Let's go downtown. Fifth Street has turned into a total beighborhood.")

DIZO
n. Acronym. Describes (busy, working, all-too-typical) couple: Dual Income, Zero Orgasm.

Earnest Hemorrhage
n. A man who is oppressively forthcoming with every thought and feeling. Antonym: Ernest Hemingway, linguistically stingy author.

foxymoron
n. One who is incredibly dumb but incredibly cute, who simultaneously attracts and repels. ("I'm so ashamed. I hooked up with that foxymoron last night.")

GHaG
n. Acronym. Girl-Hating Girl. The one whose only friends are guys.

hobeau
n. A less-than-hygienic boyfriend. ("Better open the window. Here come Gloria and her hobeau.")

nontourage
n. A group of undesirable sycophants. ("The party was fun until Justin showed up with his nontourage.")

pharmasecrecy
n. The secret bond one has with her pharmacist. ("Only Mr. Myers knows the truth about my little Klonopin/Paxil/laxative habit.")

showflake
n. Person who chronically misses every appointment (e.g., haircuts, doctor visits, dinners). ("Is Louisa going to show, or is she pulling a showflake again?")

SoDeeWah
n. Socialite/designer/whatever. The model/actress/ whatever of the '00s. You know the type.

staremaster
n. Gym dandies who constantly check themselves out in the mirror. ("If that staremaster touches his pecs one more time ...")

Wednesday, December 29, 2004

 

  Orange Poppy's Christmas "Shoe" Tree

Today, Orange Poppy mentioned that her son had posted some pictures from their Christmas festivities on his blog. I have known that Jenks had a (mostly political) blog for many months. However, I felt certain that he would NOT appreciate being spied upon by his mother's dear friend. And so I have resisted the urge to visit his blog OR make any reference to it here--until tonight.

I am sorry, Jenks. I would not normally intrude upon your little online refuge in this manner. HOWEVER, your Christmas pictures are just TOO irresistable not to share with our friends here at Tall Poppy Diaries--especially the fourth one. We promise to be good guests. We will stand in awe of your camera savvy, your wit and your mother's excellent taste. We will say "Hello", thank you for your hospitality and NOT pry into ANYTHING on your blog that you might not want your mother's friends to read. And then we will go. Right, guys? Yes. We will be excellent guests, indeed.

And so, please allow me to turn your attention to Jenk's Christmas pictures. Pay special attention to the Charlie Brown tree in the fourth picture. Yes, that is indeed a "Shoe Tree". Is that Orange Poppy clever or what? In the sixth picture, you MUST know that Kathy is MUCH lovelier than she looks in that photo, and Mr. Orange Poppy--SIGNIFICANTLY more debonnaire. (Jenks, for future reference, one should ONLY take pictures from below of those individuals whom you dislike A LOT or those whom you wish to subject to unmerciful extortion. I'm just sayin'...).

In the next photo, you can catch (only) a glimpse of the incomparable Orange Poppy. And in the final photo, you will see a photo taken by Jenks NOT during a vacation in Hawaii (as the caption would suggest), but rather from the beach house that he lives in. Alone. Spending every moment of his spare time studying and blogging. EVERY. MOMENT. What a rough, med student life he does lead....

Thanks again for your hospitality, Jenks. You were swell to let us drop by. And Sig, Carl and Alfred, I know... I KNOW Christmas is over. But I just COULDN'T resist sharing the Shoe Tree with my friends here. I. Couldn't. Resist. And if I am correct in my assumption, Sig won't be able to resist a peek either.... Come on, Sig. You KNOW you want to look...

UPDATE: I admit it...I was drawn to Katie's post on the left sidebar entitled "100% Southern". So I clicked, I read and I took the test. I'm only 94% Southern (I never have had a strong twang--Just enough that acquaintances would say, "You're from....hmmm...TEXAS! Right?" Not...but close.) However, the test results did ask me, "Is General Lee Your Father?", so I MUST still be Southern enough. So how about you...did you succomb and take the test?

 

  Out Of The Closet: Capelets, Ponchos and Fur


Courtesy of The New York Times
Photographed by Bill Cunningham

Last month, I purchased a fur capelet quite similar to the one in the center of this collage (though mine comes to a point in the front and back AND was, presumably, considerably less expensive..). I LOVE that capelet, as do my boys. It's flattering (since you can "see through" the sections that aren't fur and tell that I have a waist) and it's SO SOFT (which is why my boys like it!). However, Hubby HATES this trend. He dislikes poncho's in general, and finds wearing "fur" with jeans a bit odd.

Last night, Son 2 was feeling REALLY punk and asked me if I would rock him to sleep. YES, he's almost 8, is the size of a 10 year old, and has legs long enough that they hang off the side of the chair and touch the floor. But he IS still my baby, and he felt rotten, so I humored him. As we settled into our big leather rocking chair, he said, "Mommy, will you put on your "furry cape thing". I went to my dressing room, put on my poncho, and settled back into the chair with him. In a few minutes, he was sound asleep, snuggled up to my soft, furry poncho. No, I will never be able to get rid of that piece--EVER! No matter how much Hubby dislikes it, it's a piece that I will always love....

Unlike other collages from the NYT that always show AT LEAST a FEW misses, this one just screams "Fabulous!" to me. What do YOU think? I'm really interested to hear what the guys think about the whole poncho/fur trend, as well. Oh, and FYI, the caption reads:

"Fur boleros and capelets are being worn to the dinner table. These tiny, abbreviated evening wraps seen during holiday galas were not checked at the door. Many are in white mink, ermine and fox, and suggest the high-waisted proportions made popular by Empress Josephine in 1804."

Tuesday, December 28, 2004

 

  Vacations: Getting "Away" or Getting "Noticed"?

This Article in the New York Times made me think about vacations and why we take them. It talks about New York Jetsetters, where they go for Winter Break...and why. It was interesting to me because the NY "in-crowd" flocks to many of the places that we (as in "our family") consider weekend getaways. Sun Valley, Idaho is owned by our friends and neighbors, the Holdings. Aspen is a hop-skip and jump away. Our christmas tree sports a dozen or so ornaments that we have picked up on our week-end visits to the places that New Yorkers consider "Winter Mecca". We, of course, would NEVER consider going there this time of the year. Why? Because it's TOO CROWDED! Yes, with those New Yorkers who are supposedly "Getting Away". In masse. With half their neighborhood!

Hubby and I were having a conversation the other night about where we might want to have a "vacation" home. It has always befuddled me that the people who bought our home in Sundance for a price nearing seven digits live 15 minutes away from their "vacation home"! Yes! They live in Provo! Why? Why would you pay THAT kind of money for a "vacation home" 15 minutes from your primary residence? I don't get it. I could see buying a condo--maybe. Just a little getaway so that you can spend the weekend up there without having to drive home at night. But a five bedroom home? I don't get it...

Today, I have had a dickens of a time finding playdates for the boys because everyone in our neighborhood is at their vacation homes in Park City or at Bear Lake. Except for the "M's", who are at their home in Mexico. I must say that having a condo close to our children's friends in Park City or at Bear Lake would be fun. However, if I were going to buy a HOUSE to get away to or if I were going to fly across the country on a "getaway", I would actually want to Get Away--To The Beach! To New Faces! I would want to see people whom I don't see every day at the busstop, but whose company I enjoy just the same. I am thinking Gulf Shores. Or Destin. Nothing terribly exotic. As the NYT article suggests, I do like to see people whom I know when I am away. But not the same people I see EVERY DAY! I see my friends here all the time. But my friends in the South? Hardly ever!

Yes, if I were going on a true Winter Break--spending tens of thousands of dollars to GET AWAY, I would want to TRULY GET AWAY! I'd be ready for the ocean--seafood--old friends. THAT's my idea of "Getting Away". So, tell me...What's YOUR idea of the Perfect Getaway? Would you rather follow your friends to favorite "hang outs". Would you go on a two week trip to Cambodia? Or would you go to the spot that sounds and smells like "Home"? Please do tell...

Monday, December 27, 2004

 

  So...What'd the Jolly Guy Bring Ya'?

Hope your holidays were Happy!


It's the 2nd day after Christmas...And rather than being in "recovery" today, I spent the day at the hospital. Again. This time for Daddy's brain surgery. It was outpatient surgery and now he's back at home, telling the tale, garnering sympathy and playing his day's adventure for all it's worth. Can you imagine? Out-patient BRAIN SURGERY? Too weird. Wonderful! But weird nonetheless.

Anyway, I felt that a Christmas wrap-up was in order, and so I am going to tell ya' what I got, and then I wanna hear what YOU got (it's never too early to start my list for next year. Right?). So fess up. I promise not to get TOO jealous...

My Christmas gifts included a new cell phone (my only requirements were that it be tri-mode since we don't have phones in either of our other houses, and one is REALLY in the boonies) and that I be able to download the polyphonic "Sex and The City" ringtone into it. Childish, I know--but somewhere I read that Christmas IS for children. So Hubby humored me.

Then, the rest of my Christmas consisted of the suit that I picked out to wear to the Gov. Inauguration next week, the new coat I felt that I needed, and the accessories that Hubby and the boys picked out ALL BY THEMSELVES and surprised me with! So first, the suit: Black and white tweed with a wonderful little chiffony ruffle all the way around and a gorgeous rhinestone clasp at the waist. I LOVE this suit! (But did you notice the InkTech security tag that the saleslady left on the sleeve? Arrgghh!!!) Oh, and the little bee pin was a birthday gift from Son 1. Since this is the Beehive State, it will be the perfect little accessory for the inauguration.


Next, the coat. I fell in love with this little short black overcoat. The entire hem is scalloped--top to bottom. Without the scallops, it would have been a bit ho-hum. But with the scallops? SO ADORABLE (I think...).


And finally, these are my new earrings from Son 1. He has SUCH great taste in jewelry. They are little long-stem roses! So cute! Oh, Son 2 gave me a little sterling heart locket that is covered in rhinestones and has a little keyhole with a separate key that dangles to the side. I forgot to take a pic of it because I haven't taken it off since he gave it to me Christmas morning.



This year, I put out a "No Toys That I Can Step On or Have To Pick Up" edict. So we got an air hockey table, more games for the boys' SP's and three SMALL sets of Legos. The Lego's were supposed to be banned, but Mrs. Santa (aka The Grinch Who ALMOST Stole Christmas) gave in on the three small Harry Potter Lego sets. The boys have done a good job keeping them up off the floor for 2 DAYS! LOL! Wonder how long THAT will last...

All in all, it was a pretty good Christmas for me. So, tell me...What did Santa bring to YOU?

Saturday, December 25, 2004

 

  The 12 Days Tree...


Well, I'm a bit late getting these pics posted after our trip over the river and through the woods to Grandmother's house (Hubby's mom, who lives 2 hours away). Just got the boys to bed and wanted to at least get a couple of pics up before the day was over...

Hope your day was Merry and Bright! And thanks again for all of the holiday wishes...They worked!



You'll notice that I made the "Maids A-Milking" swans. I just LOVED the look of the swans (with crowns on their heads, of course!) and since I already had 9 ladies dancing, having eight swans worked for me! Plus the girl and cow (for Maids a-milking) were the PERFECT size to fit my Favorite Christmas Carols on. I figured a little, minor switcheroo for aesthetic purposes wouldn't hurt anyone...

A couple of additional closeups...



Friday, December 24, 2004

 

  On The Twelfth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...


Twelve Hours Filled With Christmas Spirit! Thanks to YOU!

Twelve Days ago, I began this series of posts in hopes of getting my act together, finding my inner Christmas Goddess, AND helping all of you find your own Holiday Spirit. I can honestly say that, from my end, this little project has been a rousing success. There are still things I wanted to do, but won't. There are other things I needed to do, and still will. And still others that I Did Do but shouldn't have (but they were WICKEDLY fun, nonetheless. All except for that embarrassing case of Verbal Diarrhea on the phone on The Tenth Day. Not. Good.)

I have had SO MUCH FUN with the "spreading of Christmas cheer" angle. I can SO see why Michele is always so giddy! I mean, she does this EVERY DAY! Oh, it's fun. And I LOVE it when all of my friends meet one another. I have seen all of your blogrolls grow (except for SC&A--they are SOOO persnickity that way), and that's a good thing!

After Christmas, it'll be back to the drawing board, searching out those fashions, trends, current events, etc. that YOU need to know about to help you stay at the top of your game. PLUS, I am going to do lists of some of my favorite styles, trends and stories from 2004--And, of course, some of the biggest misses of the year, as well. So if you have some favorites to add to EITHER list, please feel free to comment now.

And, finally, that poor little Charlie Brown tree that has always looked like a sorry joke in our front hallway? 'Tis a joke no longer. You will be astounded at it's loveliness with all of your ornaments adorning it. There WILL be a picture of the tree posted here tomorrow--with a surprise or two! So be sure to find a moment to stop by and see yourself in all your sparkly glory. And those Leapin' Lords? Just WAIT until you see them leaping about in their tights and knickers! D-e-e-e-elightful!

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Get the "Girlfriend Presents" delivered.
  3. Spent a little more time blogging. But I was up until 3 am wrapping gifts and baking. STILL unable to eek out more than 24 hours out of every day. Hharrumph!!!

Things I actually DID get done yesterday (FINALLY):

  1. Wrapped ALL of the Christmas presents
  2. Had our family shopping day.
  3. Got Daddy home from the hospital.
  4. Made more 12 Days Ornaments!

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. Stayed up until 3 am the night before I have to stay up until 3am. V. Bad. Plan.

Things I have done today:

  1. Got showered and dressed.
  2. Took Daddy his medicine AND his dry cleaning.
  3. Played nurse to Daddy without making ANY snide comments.
  4. Washed the rest of Daddy's clothes.
  5. Washed some of OUR clothes.
  6. Did more shopping.
  7. Wrote this post.

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Submit the third installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  2. Make ONE "12 Drummers Drumming" Ornament
  3. Clean up disaster left by tree decorating that is STILL in the living room. Unsightly!
  4. Deliver "Girlfriend Gifts".
  5. Figure out what treats we will be eating this evening.
  6. Figure out what we will be doing for Christmas Dinner tomorrow.
  7. Have a really fabulous, memorable Christmas celebration with my family and friends. That includes YOU, of course.... MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

Thursday, December 23, 2004

 

  On The Eleventh Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...


Eleven Pipers Piping: My Favorite Sources for Cultural and Fashion News: The New York Times, The New York Post--Page Six , The Washington Post, Newsweek, W Magazine, Vanity Fair, Washingtonian, Town and Country, Vogue, US News and World Report, Yahoo! News

OK, so my choices of news sources may not be YOUR idea of "high-brow" (I also get Hamptons Magazine--Does THAT count?), but they work for me. These are the sites and sources that I check at least weekly to make sure that I can carry on a decent conversation at parties and have something interesting or curious to share here. I know that journalists worth their salt NEVER reveal their sources, but I haven't pretended to be a journalist in 15 years. So I think I'm safe revealing THESE sources to you today.

My Favorite News Sources are the backbone of Tall Poppy Diaries. You, my readers, are the lifeblood. Tall Poppy Diaries without the witty, insightful comments would be dead. The most fun part of having a blog to me ISN'T having the chance to pontificate about what I think is interesting. It's reading your comments on issues and trends that makes Tall Poppy Diaries what it is.

NOTE: I did NOT name this blog "Tall Poppy Diary", because it's really not about "ME". My Eleven Pipers Piping give us a common thread to discuss, and then YOU write the Diaries. That's what I love about Tall Poppy Diaries--It's alive. Never stagnant, because YOU have opinions, too. And that's why my Eleven Favorite News sources will have a place on my tree this Christmas. They encourage YOU to keep coming back to write the Diaries. And that makes me happy!

NOW, in case you were looking forward to spreading Christmas cheer with a new set of bloggers from my list today, I do have ONE blogger whom I would LOVE for you to go say "Merry Christmas" to. It's La Nina at Difficult By Design. La Nina is new to my blogroll, but she has been SUCH a great sport, coming by and visiting you on YOUR special day--even in the midst of taking her finals! So stop by and spread a bit of cheer to La Nina. And hurry! I think she's on her way to Spain!

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Get the "Girlfriend Presents" wrapped and delivered.
  3. Take Daddy's favorite clothes to the Dry Cleaners.

Things I actually DID get done yesterday (FINALLY):

  1. Caught up on my blogging
  2. Worked on Christmas presents
  3. Spent time with the kids.
  4. Made more 12 Days Ornaments!

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. I think I was boring again...

Things I have done today:

  1. Wrote this post.

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Take Daddy home from the Hospital! FINALLY!!!
  2. Find Daddy a REALLY cool wooden cane for Christmas.
  3. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  4. Make ONE "11 Pipers Piping" Ornament
  5. Make cookies for Christmas Cookie Decorating Spectacular on Thursday.
  6. Wrap Christmas presents.
  7. Wrap and deliver "Girlfriend Gifts".
  8. Take Daddy's clothes to the Dry Cleaners.

Wednesday, December 22, 2004

 

  On The Tenth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...


Ten Lords A-Leaping--Bloggermouth Ken, Genuine, Kudzu Files, Orient Lodge, Perspicuous Musings, Sigmund, Carl & Alfred, The Moderate Voice, Muzikdude

My Ten Lords A-Leaping have earned places on my tree because they come to Tall Poppy Diaries, share their perspectives, and are secure enough that they are undeterred by the profusion of girl talk and PINK. I have always had very close guy friends, and my little place on the web wouldn't feel like "home" without them.

Bloggermouth Ken is a balanced guy--not afraid to delve into such weighty matters as developing his own blogging software and the loves and travels of Napoleon's...um...manly parts, and at the same time sharing irresistible lighter fare for those with a hectic schedule. Genuine? Does he really need an introduction? I didn't think so... And do I need to explain why HE would be on my tree? Didn't think so... OK, next up is Harry! Harry and I share a love of politics, the South, and SEC Football. And he's SUCH a great sport! Remember that three hour shopping spree we took to The Gap a few weeks ago? Hubby could learn a thing or two from Harry. Patience and a sense of humor? Must haves for the men on my tree....

Aldon is a fellow politico, as well. He doesn't come around as often as Harry, Jay, Gen and SC&A do, but we visit one another occasionally. Truth be known? I really just want to play with Fiona...But her father's a nice guy, too. And Jay! I think that his frequent marriage proposals are partly responsible for Hubby's pleasantness of late. Earrings and a fabulous brooch for my birthday? Beefed up cell phone for Christmas? I think I owe it all to you, my precious Jay. Thanks! (We won't tell Hubby that you propose to ALL the girls, ok? shhh...)

Sig, Carl and Al--I can't tell you how pleased I am to have all THREE of you commenting here on a regular basis. My family will be so pleased to know that I'm finally getting the help I need. And Carl? Thanks for bringing S & A along. I've always known that YOU had the finer tastes in women AND fashion... And Joe, who sent more than 60 readers to my site yesterday to see "The Christmas Card" AFTER I had already decided that I should perhaps pull it down (30 searches for that card from gov't offices yesterday morning made me nervous. But, CNN evidently agrees with my assessment, so up it will stay). Joe, you're my political guru. And I am so proud of you for winning the Wizbang awards! And, finally, John. We only met yesterday, and you're not even on my blogroll yet. But since you're sick AND because you actually left a comment yesterday rather than just lurking like most of the other guys, upon the tree your ornament shall rest!

Thanks guys! Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and I hope your New Year brings you lots of readers and a book deal. 'Cause really, isn't that what you all want anyway? Crossing my fingers for ya'!

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Get the "Girlfriend Presents" wrapped and delivered.
  3. Take Daddy's favorite clothes to the Dry Cleaners.

Things I actually DID get done yesterday (FINALLY):

  1. Adspace for the BoB's? Done! Thanks Gen. And Michele....
  2. Those cards and checks for the siblings and their families from Mom and Dad? DONE!
  3. Christmas Tree? DONE!
  4. Daddy's Laundry? DONE!
  5. Went to bed at 9 pm!

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. When that guy called yesterday and asked for Hubby by the name he actually goes by AND I recognized his voice? I should have asked who it was before I said, "Yes, he can come to the phone. But it may be a few minutes. He's on the floor. And tangled up in Christmas lights. And he's old. He really shouldn't be sitting on the floor. It may take him a few minutes to get up. And then he still might not be able to walk to the phone. Wait just a second...let me take the phone TO him, or he might not be able to talk once he gets up anyway. OK. Here he is..." Ya' know that guy in the picture with Fiona? Yeah. It was him. TMI? Verbal Diarrhea? Guilty as charged...
  2. Opened that second 1 LB. bag of M&M's

Things I have done today:

  1. Wrote this post.
  2. Made breakfast (first)
  3. Took a shower.
  4. Read THIS article from the New York Times entitled, "In 2004, Prim Looks Foretold The Mood". Yep. And you should read it, too. See? There IS a connection between fashion and politics...

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  2. Make Nine "Ladies Dancing" ornaments (only finished 3...).
  3. Make Ten "Lords A-Leaping" ornaments.
  4. Make cookies for Christmas Cookie Decorating Spectacular on Thursday.
  5. Wrap Christmas presents.
  6. Wrap and deliver "Girlfriend Gifts".
  7. Take Daddy's clothes to the Dry Cleaners.

Tuesday, December 21, 2004

 

  On The Ninth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...

Nine Ladies Dancing: Always Victoria, Aussie Mama, Bard Sinister, Do You Have That In My Size, Elisa, Jenniy, Magnificent Octopus, Mile High Diva, Sass

My Nine Ladies Dancing will be sparkling on my tree because they make me laugh, and think, and...oh, yeah,...on occasion, they even make me wanna DANCE! Vickie always makes me want to be a better person. And after finding out that I was a narcissistic, self-centered "Bright Star", I need obviously need all the help I can get. Aussie Mama makes me laugh my fanny off...Oh, but wait. Can't say THAT to an Aussie, either. Hmmm...Aussie Mama makes me laugh until I cry. How's that, AM? The Bard is a fab writer (here's her OTHER site), a clever wit, and surprisingly crafty with the "beads". Denise is an inspiration. If I had HER willpower I would once again be a Size 6. Elisa is a witty wonk. She keeps me humble. Every time I go to her site, I am reminded of just how much I don't know. That's a GOOD thing, right?

Jenniy is young, in love, has a FABULOUS new site, and is free as a bird. I remember those days....ahhhh...Now where was I? Oh yes. Ahem. Magnificent Octopus. Magnificent Octopus is SO funny. And bright. She's like the intelligentsia--with humor. Mile High Diva is a recent find. She and I share a love of many things. Among them? Cosmetic products and wonderful, homemade soaps. And Sass? OH MY! Do NOT miss Sass' current run of fab beefcake shots. They are on a limited run, and going fast. Still waiting for my two favorite Brits to pop up, though. Are they there yet? Nope.

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Figure out what the heck to do with my adspace for the BoB's.
  3. Get a Christmas Tree (completely) decorated. GEEZ!!! (day EIGHT!...but I'm SO CLOSE)
  4. Remembered that we had to go to Provo for a party and that I wouldn't be able to do all of the things on my list.

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. Put the trifle that I whipped up at the last minute in my favorite Tiffany Trifle bowl to take to the party.
  2. Let Hubby carry the bubble wrapped Tiffany bowl to the car after the party. Bubble wrap, shmubble wrap...

Things I DIDN'T do yesterday that I wanted to:

  1. TOTALLY finish decorating the tree (not a WORD out of you, little miss...)
  2. Take Son 1 to lunch (had to rush back to make a trifle)
  3. Yell at Hubby for breaking my favorite trifle bowl (Thank GOODNESS that I was late for my IM meeting with Gen, my media consultant extraordinaire. Or Hubby? He would have been SOOO creamed...and he wouldn't feel HALF as badly as he does now that I just said, "It's okay. I gotta get upstairs to the computer now....")

Things I have done today:

  1. Wrote this post.
  2. Made breakfast (first)

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Write Christmas cards and checks for Mom and Dad's Christmas gifts to siblings. We've already gotten one "reminder" phone call. Aaaarrggghhh!!!
  2. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  3. Figure out what the heck to do about my adspace for the BoB's. By the way, Have you reserved YOUR adspace yet? (UPDATE: That Genuine guy? He is SUCH a Genious! The ad? DONE! )
  4. Finish decorating the Christmas tree. (Not a WORD, I say....)
  5. Make Nine "Ladies Dancing" ornaments.
  6. Make cookies for Christmas Cookie Decorating Spectacular on Thursday.
  7. Take Son 2 shopping. But not to lunch since that would convince Son 1, without a shadow of a doubt, that Son 2 is INDEED the favorite just as he has assumed since the day Son 2 arrived on this earth.
  8. Ya' know the Christmas boxes that are screaming to me from the attic? It's time to bring (at least a couple more of) them down!

Monday, December 20, 2004

 

  On The Eighth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...

Eight Maids A-Milking (with a focus on the "maiden" part rather than other less-than-lovely double-entendre's): My Favorite "Mommy Blogs": Been There, Bunny Burrow, Busy Mom, Fighting Inertia, Mad Mommy Chronicles, Purple Goddess, Sands Through The Hourglass, Suburban Bliss

  • Seven Swans A-Swimming: My Seven Favorite Christmas Carols
  • Six Geese A-Laying: Six Hours of Creation--of a spectacular Christmas Tree! Five Gold Rings: Annie, JCanuck, KJ, Michele, and Kate.
  • Four Calling Birds: Girl From Florida, Sam, Pink Sun Drops and Princessr9
  • Three French Hens: Amber, Cecilia, and HESTER!
  • Two Turtle Doves: Invisible Poppy and Orange Poppy (who sit around and look pretty, but add surprisingly little to the conversation)
  • And A Partridge In a Pear Tree! MOI'! Oh, and did I mention he left me a year older, too?

Back when I used to have time to surf blogs other than my favs (back, oh...say...a month ago...) it would make me a little sad to read some of the Mommy blogs out there. They're always sweet and precious and loaded with photos of adorable children (and you KNOW how I love that!). Yet, there was something missing from most of them. THE MOMMY! I don't mean the woman cleaning house and changing diapers, and cooking supper, and...and...and.... I mean THE SOUL INSIDE THE BODY OF THE WOMAN WHO IS DOING ALL OF THOSE THINGS.

Two weeks ago, Sig, Carl and Al were talking about Mommy blogs and the lack of balance that a lot of women have in their lives. I left the following comment. (Michele was in there as well, but not as a "Mommy Blog"...):

"... you are dead-on regarding Michele and Busy Mom. If you don't enjoy your life, what's to think anyone else will, either. There are a few Mommy blogs that I read every day. The rest? NOT!

I am a Mommy, but I hope that my children will look back and think, "Our mother loved us. She adored us. And she was realistic. She cherished her life and ours equally. She lived in the moment AND with great foresight. She showed us the world, but never lost hers. She balanced her life with ours and made it look easy. We didn't like it when she left on trips "with the girls", but it gave us one-on-one time with Dad that we might not have had otherwise. All in all, she was a great mother AND a great woman, and she lived life to its fullest with grace."

Too optimistic? Probably. But I never want to lose MYSELF-the person I really am--in my children, only to wake up one day when they're gone and realize my entire world walked out the door with them. I think balance is good, but more rare than it should be. Busy Mom and Michele have it--in spades."

I don't care HOW adorable those pictures are, if you have no soul left at the end of the child-rearing assembly line, I'm just not interested. In order for others to care about you, you have to set the example by caring for yourself FIRST! That old adage about putting your own oxygen mask on and THEN helping others (including your children) with theirs? Crucial. Vital.

My favorite Mommy Bloggers are an interesting mix of all of the ingredients that make one healthy, semi-sane woman. If you can't take time to ENJOY life--really breathe it in--every single day, then you've got some rearranging to do. My Favorite Mommy Blogs remind me and their other readers every day that you CAN be an interesting person AND a great mother. It really can happen! So thanks, my dear maidens, for letting me peek in your door every day to see what you've got going. You're all an inspiration!

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Figure out what the heck to do with my adspace for the BoB's. (Still lookin' for suggestions. Anyone? I'll offer a very clever reward to ANYONE who will help me figure out what to say in my ad!!!)
  3. Get a Christmas Tree (completely) decorated. GEEZ!!! (day EIGHT!...but I'm SO CLOSE)

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. Something really naughty and downright awful. I could hate myself for it...
  2. Took this test and found out that I am nothing but a self-centered, narcissistic "Bright Star". I thought I had SO much potential to be SO. MUCH. MORE.... (Note to self: Retake test--change a few answers--see if there is any hope for a reconciliation with myself.)

Things I have done today:

  1. Wrote this post.

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Write Christmas cards and checks for Mom and Dad's Christmas gifts to siblings. We've already gotten one "reminder" phone call. Aaaarrggghhh!!!
  2. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  3. Figure out what the heck to do about my adspace for the BoB's before I talk to Gen tonight. By the way, Have you reserved YOUR adspace yet?
  4. Set up IM so that I can talk to Gen tonight.
  5. Take Son 1 Christmas shopping. He wants Abercrombie and Fitch clothing for Christmas. HE's NINE, for Pete's sake. Will walk 10 steps ahead of him to check for unnecessary sightings of "Pete"... and "Dick" ...oh, and "Jane"...oh and NUMEROUS sets of "Twins" plastered about on A&F walls.
  6. Buy an eyemask for Son 1 to wear during A&F shopping extravaganza. Hey! Don't judge. I often choose clothing based on the way it feels...
  7. Finish decorating the Christmas tree.
  8. Make eight "Maiden's NOT milking" ornaments. Whew!
  9. Ya' know the Christmas boxes that are screaming to me from the attic? It's time to bring (at least a couple more of) them down!

Sunday, December 19, 2004

 

  On The 7th Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...

Seven Swans A-Swimming: My Seven Favorite Christmas Carols

  • Six Geese A-Laying: Six Hours of Creation--of a spectacular Christmas Tree! Five Gold Rings: Annie, JCanuck, KJ, Michele, and Kate.
  • Four Calling Birds: Girl From Florida, Sam, Pink Sun Drops and Princessr9
  • Three French Hens: Amber, Cecilia, and HESTER!
  • Two Turtle Doves: Invisible Poppy and Orange Poppy (who sit around and look pretty, but add surprisingly little to the conversation)
  • And A Partridge In a Pear Tree! MOI'! Oh, and did I mention he left me a year older, too?

I want to be sure to feature all of my favorite "Gifts" (bloggers) on weekdays when EVERYONE is online so that nobody misses any or has to "catch up". So today, as I was sitting in church, I was reminded of how much I LOVE Christmas music. Unlike KJ, I didn't have any traumatic Christmas Carol experiences, so Holiday music has always been a very important component of my holiday experience. My children know all of the words to songs like "White Christmas", "Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree", "It's Beginning to Look A Lot Like Christmas" and, yes, "The 12 Days of Christmas", because those are songs I used to rock them to sleep from the time they were babies. (I told you that I'm normally a Christmas fanatic!).

My Seven Favorite Christmas songs are (in no particular order except for #1):

  1. O Holy Night (DEFINITELY the best Christmas song ever...)
  2. Silent Night
  3. Merry Christmas, Darling
  4. White Christmas
  5. Silver Bells
  6. I'll Be Home For Christmas
  7. Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas

Followed VERY closely by "Let It Snow, Let It Snow, Let it Snow" and "It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas". (Isabella just pointed out that I had White Christmas listed twice--under two different names. Sleep induced insanity is the pits! So I've replaced one of the "White Christmas'" with "Silver Bells", which I left off the list! Thanks, Isabella.)

So tell me, what are YOUR favorite Holiday songs?

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Figure out what the heck to do with my adspace for the BoB's. (Still lookin' for suggestions. Anyone? I'll offer a very clever reward to ANYONE who will help me figure out what to say in my ad!!!)
  3. Get a Christmas Tree (completely) decorated. GEEZ!!! (day SIX...)

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. Once again, I THINK I was so good yesterday that I was downright boring.
  2. Oh, I DID post that card from Congresswoman Sanchez. We probably won't be on her list next year....

Things I have done today:

  1. Got everyone dressed, ready and off to church by 9 am. (Have I mentioned how much I despise 9 am church?
  2. Visited Daddy.
  3. Washed Daddy's clothes. (It was serious. The nurses make him change his underwear EVERY day! So those seven pairs of boxers he told me to bring him for a two-week stay? Not enough....)
  4. Wrote this post.

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Write Christmas cards and checks for Mom and Dad's Christmas gifts to siblings. We've already gotten one "reminder" phone call. Aaaarrggghhh!!!
  2. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  3. Finish decorating the Christmas tree.
  4. Make one "7th day" ornament. Whew!
  5. Ya' know the Christmas boxes that are screaming to me from the attic? It's time to bring them down!

Saturday, December 18, 2004

 

  On The Sixth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...


SIX GEESE A-LAYING: Six Hours of Creation--of a spectacular Christmas Tree!

"Day 6: Geese A-laying = the six days of creation

Yes, you read it right. Instead of giving myself six DAYS to create my tree, I'm giving myself 6 HOURS. I am referring, of course, to the tree in the living room. The one that is a necessary component to any proper Christmas celebration. (Update: Still not done, but I have good start on it...)

Now, I must share with you a Christmas card that came to us today. We get lots of Christmas cards from all sorts of political folk. Most have pictures of their lovely families looking all respectable and upstanding. Others feature glistening scenes of Christmas glory and cheer. So imagine our surprise when we opened up this card from Congresswoman Loretta Sanchez of California!


(click to enlarge)

In case you can't read it, the card says, "The stockings were hung from the chimney with care, in hopes that the fire department soon would be there. Hope your Holidays are SMOKIN'! Love, Loretta and Gretzky" (Son 1 was VERY upset that she chose to set the cat's tail on fire rather than her own!)

WHAT WAS SHE THINKING? Is this someone you could ever again take seriously? I didn't THINK so! Anyway, it seems that Aussie Mama has some competition.... LOOK OUT, AUSSIE MAMA! For the record, I'm rootin' for the Aussie... Oh! But wait! I'm not EVER supposed to say "rootin'" to an Aussie. (Besides, in Aussie terms, I think the Congresswoman may be covering those bases...) OK, I'm CHEERING for the Aussie! E GADS!

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  2. Figure out what the heck to do with my adspace for the BoB's. (Still lookin' for suggestions. Anyone? I'll offer a very clever reward to ANYONE who will help me figure out what to say in my ad!!!)
  3. Get a Christmas Tree decorated. GEEZ!!! (day SIX...)

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. I was so good yesterday that I was downright boring

Things I have done today:

  1. Got Son 1 halfway across the state to LRHB's birthday party.
  2. Got gas
  3. Went shopping.
  4. Visited Daddy.
  5. Took Daddy's clothes to the dry cleaners.
  6. Wrote this post.
  7. Wrote the OTHER post. (Don't you just LOVE them...)
  8. Actually DISCUSSED decorating for Christmas with Hubby.
  9. Started tracking down an air hockey table. At least I won't be stepping on it or have to pick it up off of the floor (hopefully!)

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Get showered. But I DID get dressed. And really, that's half the battle....
  2. Write Christmas cards and checks for Mom and Dad's Christmas gifts to siblings. We've already gotten one "reminder" phone call. Aaaarrggghhh!!!
  3. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  4. Amber? Done.
  5. Make one "6th day" ornament. Whew!
  6. Ya' know the Christmas boxes that are screaming to me from the attic? It's time to bring them down!

Friday, December 17, 2004

 

  On The Fifth Day of Christmas, My Blogsite Gave To Me...

FIVE GOLD RINGS: Annie, JCanuck, KJ, Michele, and Kate.

  • Four Calling Birds: Girl From Florida, Sam, Pink Sun Drops and Princessr9
  • Three French Hens: Amber, Cecilia, and HESTER!
  • Two Turtle Doves: Invisible Poppy and Orange Poppy (who sit around and look pretty, but add surprisingly little to the conversation)
  • And A Partridge In a Pear Tree! MOI'! Oh, and did I mention he left me a year older, too?

"5 Golden Rings = The first Five Books of the Old Testament, the "Pentateuch" which contain the law condemning us of our sins"

My Five Golden Rings are my blogging buddies whom I feel closest to. Sorta the "inner circle". They have been "around" here the longest, and are the most faithful about stopping by to chat or, as Annie says, "Pass notes in class". And best of all, as naughty as I am sometimes, they have never once condemned me--to my face. What a downer THAT would be. However, I do pretty much take anything they tell me as "Gospel", so there IS that....

Annie was my first blogging friend, back when I had "0" comments and 5-7 readers a day. She introduced me to both JCanuck and KJ. Annie is SOOO close by (she's only HUNDREDS of miles away) that she feels like a neighbor. I should be so lucky. But until we decide to move next door to one another, I'm thinkin' that a roadtrip (one way or the other) is NOT out of the question. Annie, Inv. Poppy and me? Could be fun!

JCanuck and I are kindred spirits in many ways. We're separated by 10's of thousands of miles and many time zones. But sometimes when I'm up at ridiculous hours of the night working, say around 2am here, and I feel alone, I check my Haloscan. And then e-mail. And then sitemeter. And I KNOW without a doubt that J is around then--sending me a note, posting a comment or just reading posts and catching up. And the day that she posted this? Son 1 and I could not REST until she posted this! Time zones are the pits!

KJ makes me laugh...SO hard! I think it's a very good thing that we live 2,000 miles apart, because she brings out my repressed naughty side. I don't think that Utah could handle both of us together. And I am CERTAIN that Hubby wouldn't survive it. And so, we just make do with what we have--the internet. Though last year, I DID come up with this insane idea to take my children on a week-long train trip to and from Chicago JUST because the tickets were $69 round trip! (By the way, we had a BLAST!) I'll be checkin' out Amtrak this spring....

And, Michele. Oh my... WHERE to begin. I'm proud to say that she was my friend BEFORE she was MICHELE!!!! Actually, I suspect that she's ALWAYS been MICHELE!!! The rest of us were just clueless as to her full potential. Regardless, we are now stuck together to the grave because...well...once you share secrets that will follow you to the grave? That "Buyer Beware" phase of your friendship is pretty much over, isn't it? And anyone who would wear the "pink taffeta dress with the big honkin' ruffle and bustle. With the dyed to match shoes AND the long, frizzy hair"? That's not someone you cast aside like yesterday's paper. So, we'll just have to muddle through for the rest of our lives, best as we can....

And then there's Kate. The sweet, adorable, Bridgette Jones-esque little sister. Bless her heart. She's so cute, and pitiful, and strong, and invincible, and fragile, and naughty, AND nice. You have to LOVE. HER. Any day, she's going to find her Prince Charming--and he had better WATCH OUT!!! She makes me laugh. She is SO honest I often wonder if she is going to look back and wonder "What In The World Was I Thinking?" But I always feel like we're sitting in the middle of the floor eating pizza in our pajamas, talking and laughing, when I read her posts. And REALLY, people...what is better than THAT?

So THANKS, girls. I just adore you. And I know that when everyone else pops by to see you and spread their Christmas cheer, they'll understand why...

Oh, and to the reader who dropped me a line explaining that the 12 Days are actually the 12 Days AFTER Christmas? Yes. I know. But who is going to want to see my office tree on January 6th? And what if I hadn't had 12 Days of lists to help me get my act together? But thanks for the tip, just the same ....

And now (drumroll please...), on to the Incredible Shrinking Lists...

Things I Should have done yesterday, but didn't:

  1. Tell HUBBY to "Find something OTHER THAN TOYS for hubby to give the boys for Christmas." (now THAT'S a good plan...)
  2. Put in ALL of my nominations for the BoB's.
  3. Figure out what the heck to do with my adspace for the BoB's. (Still lookin' for suggestions. Anyone?)
  4. Get a Christmas Tree decorated. GEEZ!!! (day FIVE...)

Things I DID yesterday, but shouldn't have:

  1. Ate a HUGE lunch at Bambara, complete with the yummiest chocolate banana desert on the planet, and then STILL got my Junior Mints at the movie.
  2. Stayed up until 11pm when I SWORE to myself that I would get to bed by 9.

Things I have done today:

  1. Got children off to school.
  2. Wrote this post.

Things I have not done today, but (must) should:

  1. Get showered and dressed (preferably BEFORE I have to start my mad dash across the valley to buy birthday presents, get kids to playdates and birthday parties, and get SOME shopping done in the 1 1/2 hours I will be childless).
  2. Buy birthday presents for The Little Red-Headed Girl (I SO want her to marry Son 1) and The Little Red Headed Boy (no relation to aforementioned 10-year-old DIL-to-be)
  3. Get children across the valley to playdates and birthday parties
  4. Go see Daddy. Hmmm...tricky.
  5. Submit the second installment of my nominations for the BoB awards.
  6. Remind Santa to deliver some Reese's cups (the mini's) to Amber. Bless her heart...
  7. Make "Five Golden Ring" ornaments.
  8. Ya' know the Christmas boxes that are screaming to me from the attic? It's time to bring them down!

Now, how are you doing on YOUR lists? When you comment, tell me something Christmassy that YOU'd like to accomplish today. OK?


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